Do you know somebody who was somehow traumatized? Maybe you have a coworker who doesn’t like to talk about their childhood, or when you start to talk about childhood they change the subject. Maybe you know somebody who is in a relationship, and they don’t have a lot of friends outside of the relationship; they are isolated. Maybe you know somebody who served in the military, and always seem to be on edge, or keyed up. Your friend may be traumatized or have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and I’m going to offer you some pointers today on how to best deal with these people.
The simplest pointer I can give you is to avoid coming up behind them and startling them. Chances are, they will keep themselves out of situations where people can come up behind them. In that case, that’s just a form of self care.
Your friend may have triggers. Triggers are situations that cause your friend to basically have a nervous breakdown or anxiety attack. They are very difficult to predict. Your friend may not his or her own triggers, in which case you won’t know them either. But just be aware, and when that happens just try to give them a little support. If they do have an anxiety attack, touching them is ill advised, but maybe you can convince them to go for a walk to clear their head.
Now I’m going to discuss some common symptoms of PTSD, the first being insomnia which is an iniability to sleep. If your friend has a hard time sleeping, I can help them. I have recorded meditations. Honestly, between the Massage and the Meditations I basically put people to sleep for a living. I would be glad to help your friend.
Another symptom of PTSD is suicidal thoughts. Your friend may have the urge to take his or her own life. Often this stems from an inability to cope with their situation. If your friend exhibits signs of being suicidal, please get them some help. There’s a nationwide hotline you can call. The phone number is 1-800-273-8255. Let’s get your friend some support.
Substance abuse and alcoholism are also coping skills for those who have PTSD. They are not the best strategies; obviously there’s a price to pay there. There’s a nationwide hotline for that as well. If you think your friend is suffering from alcoholism or substance abuse, call 1-800-662-4357. It’s possible to intervene, to get into the cycle they’re having, to break that cycle and get them some help. Please make that phone call.
These people often have significant trust issues. If you’re dealing with them long term, gaining their trust can be very difficult, and it’s going to take a very long time to gain their trust in many cases. Also you have to be very patient with them and their PTSD symptoms. Sometimes it helps them just to know that somebody cares.
More things you can do to help your friend include encouraging them, but not forcing them, to discuss their trauma or just to get outside and get some fresh air. If you’re going to discuss their trauma, please be very gentle with them, and please don’t force the issue. Remember, encourage them but don’t force them.
The last thing I’m going to mention is to help your friend establish and maintain healthy boundaries. Often these people have a hard time setting boundaries and have a hard time maintaining them. This is done by modeling healthy boundaries and helping them define their boundaries. Ask them open questions like “how would you feel about doing this today?” “Would this work for you?” Maybe helping them sort out where their boundaries are.
So those are my pointers for today. If this video served you, subscribe to my channel. Thanks for watching.