People with chronic bowel or chronic health ailments, immune system problems or autoimmune problems actually have C-PTSD and it goes undiagnosed.
Trauma and what happens in our early childhood actually influences how your nervous system is being wired and how your brain functions and in fact it may stop developing some parts of your brain and you get stuck in a stage of emotional development. It’s really important to recognize that because there is a subgroup of people with these chronic health issues that keep struggling no matter what they do, maybe this is you.
Nobody wants to feel that all the time and it’s really about resolving this complex post-traumatic stress disorder and it gets a little bit complicated because PTSD usually happens from one isolated event and you work on that one isolated event over and over again through whatever modality that therapists use, whether it is like a somatic experiencing or you talk about the event and or apply mindfulness or CBT around it.
But complex post-traumatic stress disorder is a little bit different in the way that it has been wired within you and it’s really about grieving the attachments and the whole personality struggles around it too. It’s a huge journey to heal complex post-traumatic stress disorder because it is about healing the years and years of emotional dysfunction and the abuse.
It’s really about healing the attachments; the attachments with your earlier parental figures and any of the traumas that keep perpetuating in your current life. Complex post-traumatic stress disorder as it stands, it is complex; it’s a myriad of behaviours; it’s a myriad of dysfunctions and patterns that have to be worked through instead of just one isolated event.
It’s your entire family system and the dynamics or micro interactions that happen in a way that continue to hurt. We need to use a relational dynamics approach. It’s about looking at your unconscious and looking at shadow psychology. It’s a very spiritual journey because for many of us who have complex PTSD, it’s been ingrained in our personality. We’ve adopted a kind of personality that isn’t favourable to healing and life.
If you have years of experiencing dysfunction or have a toxic relationship with a parent or an intimate partner, it becomes your personality; so it really is about healing the personality, healing the parts of your personality that feel like a victim; and healing parts of your personality that is constantly having blocks around facing the reality of certain relationships; feeling helpless in your relationships; feeling powerless in your relationships; feeling controlled and manipulated.
Perhaps you don’t even know that you’re being controlled and manipulated and struggling with the perfectionism of everything. Perhaps you’re struggling with just never feeling good enough and trying really hard but nothing works out. There’s all these traumas around it and it can feel like a mess; and it can feel like your life is not moving forward.
Complex PTSD healing requires that you look at the source. There’s just so many things and it’s really about healing the ego because your ego conditioning – that’s your psychological conditioning that you’ve been brought up with and it’s about healing that. It’s quite a spiritual journey in a sense where when you’re healing the attachments and the traumas around those attachments.
You’re going through a spiritual journey because for some of us when we heal C-PTSD it means healing our egos so much to a point where it may feel like you’re dying over and over again and you’re losing yourself but you need to actually lose those parts of your identity which is in itself in some ways a very traumatic experience because loss of self is one of the greatest losses that you can go through and then you’re coming into your true self or your higher self; which is really about grieving these lower emotions and grieving the dysfunctions and sometimes it feels like your entire past. I know coming from my own experience that it takes a tremendous amount of grieving and a tremendous amount of resilience.
Going through that is really going to change who you are and have you reveal who you really are because you think you’re a certain way and the ego will hold onto that and it will feel so traumatic to let these go because there’s all these emotions binding around it but as we go through this it’s very rewarding because then when you heal the C-PTSD, we birth our true selves and that is another journey on its own. You become your own authentic self and you can live life on your terms so it is not just about healing C-PTSD and the body but it’s really about healing your entire life.
I hope this provides you a little more clarity and what the healing journey looks like. Thanks for watching
To your healing,