GRIEF IN SEVERAL SITUATIONS
Traumatic Death Grief
In this category we include all violent and sudden death: traffic accidents, work accidents, murders, homicides, etc. In many of these cases, grief is accompanied by a post-traumatic stress disorder, or at least part of its symptoms.
The defining characteristic of this type of mourning will be the feeling of unreality of death on the part of the bereaved. Therefore, the main support will focus on helping you to elaborate the reality of the loss.
It is especially important to recall with the mourner how he lived the experience of death itself: how he received the news, how he and his environment reacted, how the farewell rites were, etc. The counselor or therapist will deliberately use the words dead, or deceased, to assist you in the process of crafting the first grief task.
Other frequent feelings are feelings of guilt. It is usual for the mourner to fantasize about different endings, with different “what if”, “what if I had not left”, “what if I had not left the car keys”, etc.). In this way, he keeps the deceased alive in his thoughts and, therefore, blocks the first task of mourning.
Approaching the reality of what happened and contextualizing the moment of death are useful resources to work on the acceptance of loss. Contextualizing the moment of death is not just sticking to what it was like, but also to what happened days before, how was the bereaved, how was the deceased, what was happening in their lives, so that the bereaved can accept that the Accidents happen, that it did not depend on him whether death took place or not, that is, it is about finally getting strength from all those “what if”
The elaboration of this type of loss will have a lot to do with the mourner’s acceptance that things happen, that they are not under our control and that in accidents a multitude of factors almost always intervene.
Please be gentle with yourself
Love & blessings
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