Most people are familiar with PTSD flashbacks — the kind we associate with combat veterans who are haunted by a war memory. With Chronic PTSD (CPTSD), we may have “emotional flashbacks” — mood states from childhood that are disconnected from present day events, though we don’t always know it. My new Dysregulation Bootcamp will be… Read More »
Childhood PTSD has often left us unconsciously anxious, and one sign is that we tend to grasp at things we do want, and cling despite the fact that these people, situations or places make us unhappy. In this video I talk about testing reality by letting go and allowing things to come to you. You… Read More »
Detecting who is safe and supportive — and who is NOT — is a level of discernment that can be damaged by past abuse, neglect and trauma. In this video I talk about common challenges spotting people who are unhealthy for us. And I talk about the two emotional reactions that must be healed in… Read More »
Everyone’s brain and emotions get dysregulated sometimes, and almost everyone is able to eventually re-regulate. But if you grew up with abuse, neglect or other trauma during childhood, you may get more dysregulated more often, and have a harder time bouncing back, leaving you with a lack of focus and coordination, overblown (or deadened) emotions,… Read More »
If conventional assumptions about (and treatments for) depression were meaningful, we’d be seeing less of it — not more of it — these days. The incidence of depression is increased in people with Childhood PTSD, but why? In this video I challenge some conventional wisdom and offer a new approach that for many of us,… Read More »
Thousands of you have now tried my Daily Practice for healing brain/emotional dysregulation and other symptoms of Childhood PTSD (or Complex CPTSD). Occasionally people tell me that the technique, which involves writing your fears and resentments, worsens their negative emotions. If this is something you’ve noticed, this video explains why that might be happening, and… Read More »
The Daily Practice is a pair of techniques, practiced together 2x a day, that helped me quickly recover from the debilitating effects of chronic emotional/brain dysregulation. In this video I tell the history of how I developed it and how to use it. Below is a link to a free download and videos so you… Read More »
Even though the abuse and neglect we endured in childhood is long over, the lingering effects can leave us depressed, anxious, negative and disempowered — sometimes there’s not even a reason! For many of us, talking to someone about it doesn’t help (even if you have someone who listens). But there are simple things you… Read More »
Do you wish you had a few minutes with me to ask questions, get help with challenges, or get some common sense advice on navigating life with Childhood PTSD? Now you can get free coaching on a my call-in format show, “Ask the Fairy.” We’ll talk about things like brain/emotional dysregulation and re-regulation, relationships, family… Read More »
The warm feedback I’ve received from hundreds of course participants has made these last ten months the most rewarding in my career. “Healing Childhood PTSD” contains lessons I’ve been teaching people informally for more 20 years. I knew the techniques work, but my challenge was – how to share it with the world? It took… Read More »
One of the harmful effects of growing up with abuse and neglect, is that we get ALL too good at fitting ourselves to unacceptable people and situations. Long after normal people would have left the scene, our minds tell us it’s our fault, it’s a unique situation, we should stay and make it work. In… Read More »
Part of the damage from abuse and neglect in childhood is what actually happened when we were kids. But a significant part of the problem today comes from what I call “Inside Traumas.” These are self-defeating behaviors that are common to people who are frequently in a state of dysregulation. They start as an innocent… Read More »
Anger is natural when we visit past experiences of abuse and neglect during childhood! We are encouraged in some modes of healing to “feel our feelings” and vent the anger. And it’s true, anger is a step up from self-hatred and depression. But when we amp up the anger, is it genuinely relieving our emotional… Read More »